First Date Followup

One of the biggest mistakes that leads to less attraction, and worsening dates, is what guys do after the first date: the after the first date phone call.

You’ll find plenty of rules to go by, plenty of debate that leads one way or the other, but let me tell you, this is how to handle the first phone call after the first date:

If you like her then you should call no later than 7:00pm the next day but not before noon-time. Keep the call short and thank her for a wonderful time. Maybe a minute or two to talk about the date and how much fun you had. Bring up the possibility of a second date, but don’t mention anything specific right away (this is actually better left to another call in the next couple of days).

If you didn’t like her, then you still call her, maybe not the next day but the latest would be the second day after the date.

Thank her for the wonderful time you had and leave things at that point. You must call her to be polite and if she asks about another date right away then just say you’re busy for a couple of days but will call her again. While many women will say that you should say right out if you don’t dating her would lead towards a relationship, I think this is better for the second follow-up call rather than the first date phone call.

Let her down easy and always be polite. Remember, it’s a small world and she may know the next girl you date and you don’t want to be described as a jerk. And you will call her a second time just to say that you’ve been thinking things over and you’d rather keep her as a friend that a romantic partner. Be smooth, polite and get off the phone as fast as possible.

Women always want to know how long it will take a guy to call after the first date, and guys, this is what I’ve told you: one day, no later than 7:00pm is when you should make the call.
Certainly don’t call her right after the first date, or first thing in the morning. A little mystery goes a long way.