How to Make the First Date Great

The reasons why first dates fail, like not finding nuclear war heads in Iraq, are your communication skills. Either you have them or you don’t.

Either you make the date fun and active and interactive or you make it boring, dull, with awkward pauses and just a plain failure. Some women will give you a second chance with a second date. But many won’t, they see that what they see is what they got, and no surprises there.

There are many ways you can sabotage the first date: wearing dirty clothes right from work and stinking like a horses butt come to mind. The greasy hair that was last washed about a week ago, or simply asking her to pay half of the bill also will ruin any first (or later) date.

But the real deal-breaker as far as first dates go is not having enough fun on the first date.

You want to plan the first date so that it is interactive between the both of you. You want to be able to communicate on the first date. You want to have time to talk, time to share, and time to understand each other.

Finding common ground is what the first date is all about. It’s also what all the several dates afterwards are about, to lay down the bridge between the next dates. If there’s no bridge there is no next date. If there’s no communication, there is no bridge. If you’re a wussy and show it, there is no chance at all.

You can search online for the term “great first date” and have thousands, or millions, of results, but the reality is you take two people and look at the personalities and what they have in common and find something fun to do.

Even if the choices are something that you rarely do on your own, and I come back to these examples many times, go bowling, go window shopping, go to a dessert shop, go to local museum, maybe an art shop.

The goal of your selection of your first date destination is that it allows time for the two of you to talk, to find it more about each other. A guy that can talk and hold a conversation with a woman without being overwhelmed is well on his way to being whatever type of men that women like, and appreciate, without becoming a wussified guy and/or their “girlfriend”, which is an entirely different subject about not being boyfriend material.

This doesn’t mean that dates should cost you hundreds of dollars, by any definition this should mean that dates should cost you $20 – $50, unless you’re really trying to impress, of course. But don’t overdo it. It’s your personality and your conversational skills that will be remembered and will be rated the next day when she’s talking to her girlfriends. That’s the first test you have to pass that any woman you want to date will give you.

So read your local newspaper regularly, visit your local news events online website. Know what’s going on and be ready at any time to invite any woman you meet one of these events.

It’s even a great idea for you to go to these events by yourself or with one buddy, not with all the guys, but just one buddy because then you have a little more experience in what’s going on at these events as well as more opportunities to see what type of women are at these events. It’s this type of information that is always priceless. These experiences keep you prepared for the moment when you first talking to a woman and need topics to talk about and options to invite her to.

These tips will help you make your first dates, great. Good luck!